Once again, I convinced my sister to attend a cultural event with me. This was produced by the same two Black women who’d brought that fabulous Juneteenth extravaganza to life a few months ago.
The Emcee & Me
From the description, the event sounded similar to a poetry slam, but set to trap music. Unlike a slam competition, poets weren’t given a time limit, a factor I missed. The total points awarded that night ranged from the mid 70s to over 100. I had no idea what a perfect score would have been nor how many judges were present.
General seating consisted of a row of four seats on either side of the aisle, so my sister and I took up half of a row. Two other Black women, who had each come to the event by themselves, joined us near the start of the program. By the end of the night, one couldn’t tell that we hadn’t all planned to meet one another there.
One of the best aspects of the event was the audience participation. We were vocally supportive for the brave poets. Three out of eight poets flamed out, forgetting their words and needing either to restart a few times or outright read the words from their phone.
Between the contestants’ performance was special guest poets. The audience reacted more raucously to them. Not only were they seasoned performers, but they took their craft to surprising levels that either shocked the hell of us or made us laugh out loud. My favorite line of the night occurred when one of the featured poets stated that his bed was made out of “I wish a nigga wood (would).”
The evening’s theme was “Toxic AF,” so every poem involved relationships that took the poet to hell and back. Most ended their performance with them vanquishing their ex toxic partner.
By the end of the evening, I was happy that none of my relationships had taken me to such depths of anguish. That’s the silver lining to being so focused on myself and my own goals.
Proving once again that I can have a meaningful celebration even if it’s midweek and for a day, I started off my birthday with a light breakfast at home, followed by a mango smoothie at one of the coolest coffee shops in town. As a matter of fact, one of my prolific poetry-writing friends had sent me two of his latest self-published books of poetry for my birthday. Since he freely passes out these gifts of poetry, I knew he’d love to have them regifted in a space that he’d feel at home with his writing buddies if he were here instead of in Austin.
Poetry’s New Home
Places such as this coffee shop, together with its take a book/leave a book area are numerous in Austin, but scarce around here. I tried to find such a place when I initially moved here, but had to ask for a recommendation when I kept striking out at several different places.
Between Scripture
Most of the selection looked like “airport books,” but then I saw two copies of the same Holy Bible. Not sure if people had lost their religion, but I placed the two good books together and inserted my friend’s poetry books in between. Hopefully, future readers will be interested in some good words along with their religion.
From My Booklist
Speaking of religion, I found a jewel of a book among all the “airport” books about a Pakistani young woman who was attacked by religious fanatics. I’d placed this book on my ever-growing booklist when it first came out. As I sipped my smoothie and started to read, I suddenly stopped. I saved reading it for when I returned home. I was excited to read it aloud to my father, who was currently confined to bed. (Turns out, he wasn’t interested in the story after four times of me reading some chapters to him.)
New Sports Bras
Next up, shopping. Normally, I only buy gas, groceries and occasionally food when I go out to eat. However I made a birthday shopping list of things that needed replacing, starting with sports bras. I exercise at least five days a week, so I usually wear a sports bra versus a regular one. The most challenging thing about the whole experience was trying to take a selfie that included both my tiara and the bra. I know, first world problems!
New Shoes
Across the parking lot, I shopped at a shoe store, not knowing whether I could actually get a stylish flat shoe. In the past, all the comfortable shoes were either sneakers or outright ugly. Once again, I found a jewel.
New Socks
I felt like a sucker to marketing when I looked over from the checkout line, and spotted a bunch of anklet socks. Truth of the matter is that I needed to replace the socks that I used for dance class. At least I wasn’t just buying frivolous stuff because I needed them to support a fun way of exercising.
Blueberry Toes
Now that I’d bought my new shoes, I got my nails done. Of course, my freshly painted blueberry toes couldn’t be seen while wearing my new shoes, but that wasn’t the point. I knew from the onset that I would intertwine pampering with shopping.
Don’t Mind If I Do
I ended part one of my birthday celebration at a sushi restaurant that I’d never visited before. The spicy edamame was inspired, which I coupled with my favorite sushi combo of avocado and unagi with the newest palate pleaser: a crunchy crab mixture. Along with miso soup and jasmine tea, lunch was divine.
Festive Scene
Part two of my birthday celebration unfolded hours later. When I’d seen that the local regional theatre had an opening night social gathering, complete with champagne and snacks, I immediately bought two tickets.
Snack Spread
The bartender complimented my tiara. When I told her that I was celebrating my birthday, she offered me a full cup of champagne, which I graciously accepted. Fortunately, the bubbles didn’t get on my nerves and it was tasty. Everything absolutely worked out for the preshow event, especially since the finger food spread coupled well with champagne.
Here’s to 53!
My sister was a good sport, accompanying me to the event because she usually uses the weekday evenings to catch up on her sleep. At least the show, which I’d never heard of was very entertaining. Apparently, it was a Broadway or off Broadway show…not a fact that I cared about because the champagne pre-event was the draw for me with the show being a cherry on the top.
Earlier in the day, I received a BD gift from a friend. The boxes were just as beautiful as the jewelry itself. I struggled with bracelet clasp so much that I wore it for the rest of the day, so I was lucky that it matched my colorful dress. I’ll wear the earrings for another occasion.
Surprise BD Gifts
As much as love to make my own greeting cards, I appreciated the cards I received from my family…and not just for the gift of money contained in them! The cards reflected everyone’s personality from the religious inspired message of my parents’ card…
Mom & Dad’s Card
…to the humorous message of one of my sister’s cards…
One Sister’s Card
…to sentimental and stylish card from my other sister. As a matter of fact, when I saw this last card, I knew that I’d pluck those flowers off the card to be reused on another card that I decorate for someone else.
The Other Sister’s Card
My sister and her family came for the weekend to celebrate both Mom’s and my birthday. Since Dad was confined to bed, we ordered takeout, popped a bottle of non-alcoholic sparkling cider for the teetotalers and a bottle of spicy red, essentially for my niece, one of my sisters, a sip for one nephew and me.
Partial Group Pic
My sister and her children took shifts with Mom, so Dad had company while he ate. That was our compromise in lieu of us going to a restaurant and having someone sit with him. We’re hoping that next year this time, that Dad will be able to at least join us at the table either at home or at a restaurant.
Dad shattered his hip a few days after his 85th birthday in April and he returned a few days before Mom’s 83rd and my 53rd birthday in September. The time in between birthdays had been a long road to recovery.
Welcome Home Hugs
My childhood bedroom had been converted into Dad’s convalescence room, complete with a hospital bed and all the accessories needed to take care of him. I never realized how warm that room was when I was a child. At least Dad doesn’t have to worry about freezing.
As much as Dad had wanted to come home, the ideal homecoming would have been Dad walking through the front door. The silver lining is Dad has to use his own strength to get in and out of bed instead of relying on professionals to maneuver him.
As Mom and I soon discovered, there are at least two wrong ways to put compression socks on a person: her way and mine. Mom’s way was to put them on as if they were a regular socks, then fight with pulling up those tight bastards every centimeter at a time. My way was gathering the full length of the sock until only the toe part was loose and putting it on like it was pantyhose. My way started off better since I could secure most of the foot before I ran into the same challenge Mom did.
After that initial experience, I looked up videos and discovered the best way to accomplish the task was inserting one’s arm through the sock, placing a thumb in the heel and the four fingers in the toe area like working a sock puppet. Next, I clasped thumb and fingers together and with the other hand, pull back the sock, turning it inside out up to the foot area. Then, I remove my hand, being mindful of keeping the heel part of the sock facing down. After placing Dad’s toes into toe area of the sock, I then pulled the sock up to cover the remaining of his foot, making sure to place his heel into the heel area. Afterwards, it’s just a matter of working the sock up his leg while smoothing out any wrinkles. Far easier in the matter of a minute or so without breaking into a sweat.
Another bonus is that Dad exercises his voice, which has become much softer over the years. Now that he’s confined to that room, whether he’s in the bed or in his wheelchair, he has to speak louder to be heard. Complicating communication is Mom’s partial hearing loss in one ear. So, if she’s in her bathroom while listening to the radio or downstairs in the kitchen with the TV on, Dad has to yell loud enough for her to hear him. Half the time, if I’m not in my own room working, I usually run up three sets of stairs to see what he wants.
I knew that he’d quickly tire of being in the room by himself. That’s why I went out and bought him a small flatscreen TV and attached a firestick to it. It’s the type of entertainment that he was used to in rehab. Yet, Dad had grown accustomed to having Mom camped out in his rehab room. A luxury that isn’t going to be duplicated here at home for the same long ours as he was used to.
First of all, someone dropped the ball about having caregivers. Mom had started that process with the VA back in July. However, when Dad returned home, the caregivers weren’t in place. She’s had to be the sole caregiver attending to the vast majority of his needs for the first two weeks.
Secondly, Mom’s only two years younger than Dad. Although she’s doing well to get around as much as she does, including driving and doing all the activities of daily living for herself. Yet, she cannot keep going at this pace.
Lastly, my other sister who lives in town and I both have full time jobs. We can help a little here and there, but nothing as much as help as Dad doing things for himself. I’m not sure how much of his regression has to do with his emotions or actual physical strength. Either way, I try to be as positive as possible whenever he makes an effort.
In the meantime, I’ve introduced a new hobby for Dad and me. I picked up a book to read to Dad. I’m not sure how much he’s following along since he usually falls asleep, but at least it’s quality time while we have the time.
As a family, we’d kicked the housing can down the road until we’d just about reached the end. We’d been blessed with general good health until the complications of age and reduced mobility brought us to research and strategize alternative housing.
My parents bought their current house in 1979 when they were still physically vibrant, going up and down three flights of stairs was absolutely no issue. Until this past April, both parents had slowed their gait, but were still able to amble around the house.
When Dad entered rehab after partial hip surgery, many questions arose, regarding which facility he’d enter after leaving rehab since his insurance only covers 100 days. He’s not yet ambulatory, and needs another affordable high-quality place that offers physical therapy.
Coupled with that concern, were questions about where one of my nephews, who has Asperger’s, will live. Throughout his 32-year life, he’s only ever lived with my parents or with his mother, but never on his own. The major hurdle is that he doesn’t know how to live independently and may very well need to live in a supported group home for the rest of his life.
As an only child, his peers are coworkers and 3 out-of-state first cousins who he’s not close to. Part of that emotional distance has to do with having Asperger’s, but in general, my nephew has never received on-going services outside of an academic setting to practice being sociable.
Recently, I surveyed him about his independent-living skills. For such things like shaving or doing laundry, he stated that he knew how to do them, but my sister filled in the details behind those answers. He’s only ever shaved himself once and goes to the barber every couple of weeks for the rest. As far as laundry is concerned, he washes clothes every few days, but the loads are very small since he’s still not clear on what constitutes a proper load of laundry.
Fortunately, my other sister has been studying real estate. As I’ve researched resources for adults with autism, one of the first things that I confirmed was that the current group homes had no vacancies. As a former public school teacher, I already knew that there was always more need than resources.
That dismal conclusion had a positive spin in the autism literature when it stated that families of people with autism often find creative solutions to form supported group homes.
I shared that suggestion with my real estate sister. We had an energizing conversation. She’d studied about government funding for such a place. She brainstormed about checking out hotel properties and talking to one of our first cousins who’d worked in a similar setting.
When I informed my nephew that his aunt and her family would be his future landlords, I saw the flicker of excitement in his eyes. He’d finally be able to take this milestone step of more independent living with support.
Speaking of support, Mom chose to pay the expense for Dad to remain at rehab a month longer. By that time, hopefully a chair lift will be installed, so Dad can go from their bedroom on the top floor to the kitchen/dining room/living room area, located on the second floor. Also, she’s researching attendant options since Dad will still need assistance with some daily living activities.
In the meantime, the rest of us, my sisters and Mom, continue to hold down the fort as we search for more support while arranging suitable accommodations for Dad and my nephew.
This year marked our 82nd continuous Strange Family Reunion and the first time we were back in person after three years of virtually meeting during the pandemic. We essentially had two themes for this family reunion: “Back Down Memory Lane” and “Celebrating Our Second Generation Legacies.” What we meant by “second generation” was second freeborn generation as in their parents were not born into slavery and neither were they.
Strange Family Shelter
Historically, our family reunion was held at my maternal grandparents’ home. Then under trees in the combined backyards of several extended family members near my grandparents’ home. Finally, many relatives built a permanent shelter on family land.
Before You Eat…
Our IRL reunions run Friday through Sunday. During the pandemic, we all became more tech savvy. To plan for this year’s event, we held near weekly Zoom meetings to discuss programing for the entire weekend, along with divvying up roles. I suggested that some family could be “voluntold” the day of the event to lend a helping hand.
Fish fry & Grill
Every day unfolded like a well rehearsed play with few hiccups. Friday kicked off with our usual fish fry. Over the years, the menu has expanded to include vegan options with this year’s introduction of fried corn, which was so popular that they ran out. There was also a modest vegan buffet.
Frying Corn
I filled my plate with fish and sides. I didn’t bother with any of the grilled offerings, which included Mom’s favorite: hot dogs.
Grilling
For the first time ever, we had a kitchen manager who’d set three different menus and she had dedicated kitchen volunteers for all three days. Everything was very well organized and delicious. Next year, we’re planning to have even more kitchen staff on Saturday since that’s our main programing day. I suggested contracting a clean up crew for the end of each day.
Friday Kitchen Staff
We honored 12 of our elders and sat them at a head table on Saturday. Instead of having to wait in line or even going first in line, the honorees simply circled items on a printed menu of their selections and a food runner brought them their plate. That was one of many of the big hits during the reunion.
Food Line
We also honored them on Saturday by having those who were able to walk down the red carpet, pose for pictures before being seated at the head table. My contributions to the program were to show a presentation that I created, which gave a brief biography for each honoree, followed by reading an “Oscar” blurb before the honoree or their representative accepted a gift bag.
Elders Eat First
All throughout the three-day reunion, I walked around taking video clips. I’d changed the settings on my cameraphone to 4K. I’d researched and discovered that my antiquated iPhone 8 had the capability to capture film quality footage. For this event, I tested it out.
Red Carpet Pose
Although I had other means of capturing the event, I enjoyed practicing with my camera like a filmmaker, especially on Sunday when we had church service at the shelter prior to our final day of breaking bread together.
Sunday Kitchen Staff
One of my relatives, sang two gospel songs. I used both of them as the soundtrack to the nearly 6-minute video summary of our reunion. I knew before the event began that I didn’t want to narrate the video as I’d done the “Celebrating Our Second Generation Legacies” presentation. Nor was I going to use the the audio associated with the clips because they would have far too much noise. Those two gospel songs were the perfect solution.
Additionally, those clips were much longer than necessary–over 35 minutes altogether. Some schools of thought state that it’s better to have more than what’s needed for editing purposes. With practice, I can be more selective and time conscious when taking B-roll shots. Nonetheless, I trimmed the fat and shared the video with the rest of the family as one of several documentations of our reunion.
At some point in my pole fitness journey, I want to invert, which makes the difference between my current level and advancing to the next one, level 4. It’s a pretty daunting task to invert while on the pole. The fight against gravity is pretty gnarly when hanging on right-side up. What I’ve learned in the few months since I’ve been taking classes is that whatever skill I want to accomplish on the pole, should be practiced while off the pole.
Yoga Inversion Stand
Enter my new favorite exercise toy: a yoga inversion stand. When not in use, the stand serves as a foot rest in front of the only seat in the den that does not incline with a built-in foot rest.
Ready for Action!
Every morning, I remove the cushion, put my head through and pike up to vertical 10 times. The first time I used the stand, the experience amazed me. I easily inverted since the stand supported the brunt of my weight with the use of my shoulders.
Allegedly, five minutes of inverting is the equivalent of two hours of sleep. Thanks to my sinuses being stuffy in the mornings, I’ve yet to test out that theory. Thankfully, the sinus pressure lessens when I’m in pike position.
Another benefit I read about was that it would slim my waist. I scoffed at that one. Pretty much any weight loss would do that, so I didn’t dwell on that too much.
The underside of the cushion depicts several pictures of suggested exercises. I made up one of my own, which I refer to as “around the world.” While gripping the bars, I walk around the stand to complete a circle. At one point during the circuit, I must flip over into a back bend, then flip back over to return to the starting point. Of course, I circle in the opposite direction.
As ungracefully as I complete my around the worlds, my back only knows that it feels more sensational than it did prior to the exercise. That dynamic exercise is perhaps the best morning stretch I’ve ever done. No matter how late I wake up, I do that stretch. It doesn’t take but a minute to go in both directions. The reward far outweighs the time investment.
I’ll have to do other exercises for a more intensive core workout needed for pole inversion, but I’m definitely sticking to those around the worlds. So far, I only do one rotation in each direction, but I want to increase that once I get better at it. And improve my technique.
On days like these, the most authentic restaurants don’t care about cultural appropriation. Not that I attempted to dress or act like anything else that who I was: a hungry person who also drinks.
My Mango Margarita
We stood outside with the rest of the customers who waited for tables. The restaurant had placed all of us on a digital wait list that allowed everyone to monitor their place in line and lapsed waiting time. Not only was it entertaining to watch us move up the list, but the app eliminated the need to wait in an actual line.
My Sister’s Mango-Dragonfruit Margarita
Instead, we all clustered outside on the sidewalk, which ran the length of the shopping center. As engaged as I was reading on my phone, monitoring the digital queue, talking with my sister and low-key people watching, I’ll confess that I was hyper-vigilant for anyone ready to blow people away for whatever hate-filled reason.
The Shots Dude
Another day in the mass shooting epidemic in the US. I can’t stop living because of possible threats, but when guns are far more protected than people, I cannot help but develop some paranoia, especially when I’m in a huge crowd of people of color.
A Shy Guy?
Happy to announce that the only thing that was killed were the libations. Note to self: I can no longer drink a tall margarita!
Of Course Not!
I saved the shot for the next day. No need to waste good alcohol on pushing me further into inebriation. I appreciated the shot more by waiting the next day. That’s the middle age logic coming through.
Dessert
As a matter of fact, since I believe in leftovers, I enjoyed the other half of my Mexican dinner prior to attending “Jelly’s Last Jam,” which was the start of another culturally-filled evening.
Holiday Yard Display
The cost of all three of our tickets would have been the cost of one ticket back in Austin. There’s no culture jumping out at you here in Fayetteville, but once the surface is scratched, it’s a less expensive endeavor. That savings will come in handy for funding my own projects.
I distinctly remember around this time last year, Congress made a lot of noise about ending Daylight Savings. They cited many reasons why it was no longer needed and even dangerous to continue the tradition of “springing forward” an hour, which robs us of an hour of sleep.
Not to mention those of us who watched the Oscars, which miraculously ended before midnight. I actually went to bed at the “normal” time even though my body still registered it as an hour earlier. Not sure how long it’ll take my circadian rhythms to catch up with the time adjustment this time around. What I should have done was take something to help me fall asleep prior to going to bed, but I took a sleep supplement a few hours after the fact.
On Monday, I posted a picture of an Oscar award and Oscar the Grouch, asking my coworkers which Oscar they felt like. At least I made them laugh. Not being a coffee drinker myself, I wondered how many pounded more coffee than usual.
Right on cue, all the articles and interviews about the benefits of sleep entered the news cycle. As if the only thing robbing most Americans of quality-of-life-enhancing rest is setting the clock forward an hour once a year. What about American grind culture?
One theory states that our government wants to keep the majority of us grinding away at the edge of poverty. If the majority of us are more focused on survival strategies, then we don’t have the luxury of time and rest to contemplate or even act upon things to protest and demand better.
As a result, once again, only the rich can afford to rest and lobby for the change that they want to see. The glaring problem with that is that whatever changes the rich want to see, by design, doesn’t work for the majority of us. As a matter of fact, those changes only work to maintain the status quo.
When something is nearly impossible to accomplish, Dad says that the situation takes an act of Congress. This is something that Congress will NEVER act upon. Hell, they can’t even do away with Daylight Savings. Might as well just enjoy the sunshine.
When one of my cousins invited us to an event as part of a monthlong black history celebration, several of us had different ideas about what it would be: a potluck, a dance, a play, or some other presentation. I knew for sure that it was a potluck because, once again, Mom had been requested to make potato salad.
Parents Ready to Party
My sister, brother-in-law and I arrived earlier than my parents and a cousin who also attended. We sat at one table and my parents at another. Although the event was a potluck of sorts, I was so happy that we’d eaten Japanese food prior to attending the event. My sister and her husband are pescatarians, so it was especially important to them that they had an actual meal.
Before Mom Makes the Rounds
The only “program” during the event was the lineup of black music the DJ played all evening long. The Motown hits kept coming, along with other genres of black music. Of course the DJ called for a Soul Train line, line dances, slow dances and we freestyled.
Mom Sandwich
We never managed to get Mom and Dad to dance together. Mom’s number one mission was talking. Dad’s never been as much of a talker, compared to Mom, but he’s hardly ever met food that he didn’t want a “taste” of. No matter how soon we had just eaten.
Our Host Joins Us
I barely tore Mom away from socializing to get her to dance the Wobble. I generally can’t stand line dances, but to entice Mom to join us on the dance floor, I made the necessary sacrifice.
Dancing Queens
Yet, for Dad, my sister requested a slow song. Much slower than the music which the DJ had been playing. When the DJ announced a Father-Daughter song, I had been content videotaping the whole thing, but one of my cousins took my camera, and insisted I join my father and sister dancing.
Dapper Dad
At the end of the evening, which was around 8 PM since the party was held in the recreation room of a retirement community, Dad just naturally struck a pose while waiting for the car to be driven around. A GQ model couldn’t have done it better.
I’m always apprehensive to attend a surprise birthday party for an older person. I remember that scene in the movie, “Get Shorty,” where the surprised birthday person has a heart attack. I’d hate to be associated with such an unfortunate event, but my extended family has been smart. We lie to the unsuspecting birthday person about where they’re going. When they walk into the room, we don’t shout or spring out at them. Instead, they notice that they know everyone and see how the room is decorated.
My Beautiful Outspoken Aunt in Her 20s
My aunt, typical of her generation, was part of the network of women who knew things because she kept up with extended family. I like to think of them as the internet prior to the actual internet. So, the fact that her family, church family and friends were able to keep this from her for months was noteworthy.
Surprised by Her Children
They lured her in by telling her that one of her sons, known for having art shows, was displaying his work at their church. Now, as much as I know of my cousin’s paintings, I’ve never seen anything that one would readily associate with a “Christian” theme, but all artists can branch out.
Surrounded by Her Children
Fourteen years ago, we had a similarly arranged 70th birthday party for Dad. The lure that time was that the local rec center was having a fish fry, so our next door neighbor easily talked Dad into going to get a plate. Upon entering the room, he noticed that he knew everyone. The difference between then and now, Dad could be easily unaware of things because Mom was the social planner.
Dad Joining His Sister with Mom
This go around, Dad returned the favor, surprising one of his younger sisters.
Birthday Embrace
Both Dad and his sister joined the military. The military took them wherever their skills needed to be in service to our country’s objectives at the time. Even so, Dad’s side of the family wasn’t exactly “close,” as compared to Mom’s. Yet, looking back, I attribute that more to being in survival mode.
Wisdom Table
Over the years, Dad’s side of the family grew closer. Part of this phenomenon was due to being more sentimental with age, but also, the elders in the family have reaped the benefits of serving and retiring from the military. Unplugging from the daily grind has a mellowing effect.
Speechmaking
My aunt had the honor of addressing us prior to dinner. She marveled at how her family managed to sneak this event past her.
A Third Cousin & Me
In addition to celebrating my aunt’s birthday, we had an impromptu family reunion. This had been long overdue since before the pandemic.
Sister, Cousins & Me
Working for myself for years gave me the schedule flexibility, but never the steady income of an employee. I went from having the time, but not the money. Then after the pandemic, I had neither the money nor the time.
The Schedule & Menu
As dinner wound down, we all got the greenlight to share 2-minute memories about my aunt. Three themes emerged during our comments: how mean/strict/brutally honest she is, how each of us were her “favorite,” and no one honored the 2-minute time limit. So, as her favorite niece, I shared how I always thought she was mean, but when I became an adult, I understood her angst. I told everyone that I couldn’t repeat a word that I’d overheard my aunt saying, but I understood what she meant.
Some Other Nieces
Of course, another niece told everyone that SHE was the favorite niece since she got to practice driving Auntie’s car to get her driver’s license.
Sister, 1st Cousins & Me
There never seems to be enough time to catch up with everyone. Now that I’ve moved back to the East Coast, I should be able to visit this side of the family more often.
Artistic First Cousin & Me
Fortunately, I got to catch up with one of my cousins who I’m collaborating on an animated project with. Although my part has been put on hold for a minute, I was happy that he continued to illustrate for the series.
My Parents with Aunt
One of the most challenging things of the evening was capturing a good picture of these three.
Take Two
Part of the challenge is that my aunt doesn’t really like to take pictures.
Third’s the Charm
After all was said and done, my aunt revealed a “secret” to me.
Auntie w Her Favorite Niece
Turns out, I WAS her favorite niece! Actually, whether she was serious or bullshitting…that’s her.
Apparently Photobombing Is Still a Thing
Now, of course I couldn’t have the Queen for a Day all to myself for long during a photo op.
My Uncle & His Children
Actually, those are my aunt’s children as well. All of whom swore they were the favorite child for some reason or another.
My Uncle & His Sons
Truthfully, one only wants to have the favor of someone powerful. And lord help you if you fell out of favor.
Youngest in Our Family
Some people believe that the youngest children are the loudest because we want to be heard above our older siblings. Whatever the case, all families have their upstarts. I traveled the world as an international math/science teacher and my cousin travels around the world doing missionaries.
